Friday, 15 March 2013
What is Tantric Sexual Healing?
As you can imagine, I’m often asked about sex, and what I mean in relation to ‘Tantric sex’. I believe that to reach your sexual potential you’ve got to be open to all spiritual elements....bliss, ecstasy, connection, union, transcendence, losing self, merging with the universe.
What do you suppose I’m describing here?
a) A spiritual experience
b) A sexual experience
The answer is (c). Not all sexual experiences are spiritual and not all spiritual experiences are sexual, but there is a strong connection, and when the two merge the sex is truly awesome.
For many of us in western culture this seems at odds, because we’re often brought up to believe that sexuality and spirituality are opposites, that one is base and ‘bad’ and the other is lofty and ‘good’, that to get to the spiritual we have to overcome the sexual.
So instead of embracing our sexuality, which is an intrinsic part of being human, we at best trivialise it and at worse deny it which means that instead of a whole healthy society, we have one that is obsessed with superficial sexuality and full of people with dysfunctional attitudes and behaviours around sex.
Let me break it down into some key facts:
* Sexual energy is our basic life energy
* Denying or corrupting it damages our selves
* It’s far better to embrace our sexuality and experience life-affirming and life-enhancing sex.
Our bodies are sexual pleasure machines, we are designed to experience exquisitely delicious sex, and by deepening the intimacy and heightening the erotic, we are capable of having sex that is far more than a physical.
You have to cultivate deep sex.
For a society that increasingly views sex as a performance activity, this can be hard to achieve, because to be present you have to be out of your head and into your body, hence being energetically charged (healed of any blockages) helps this flow so the sensual aspects of sex are heightened. You’re also more likely to take it slow, delighting in every exquisite morsel of the experience.
The valleys of sex, the slow, sensual, deep aspects are at least as glorious and often more ecstatic, and the sensations linger longer….
The heightened states of arousal reached can transcend the usual experience of orgasm, so the feeling extends way past the genitals into the body and beyond, and potentially for a very long time.
You see, tantric (high) sex incorporates the intimate and erotic showing your real self and surrendering to the experience.
So, what makes for better sex? Relax, switch off your brain and get into the groove of sex, enjoying every exquisite moment.
I encourage you to start the journey.